Redeeming Your Time in the School Car Line

School started back in our county yesterday, August 17.  My son gets out of school at 2:50 pm.  I was in the School Car Line to pick him up for 35 minutes.  Wait times are customary in the mornings and afternoons.  It’s something we all build into our schedules.  This year, our district changed the school start and end time so that our elementary, middle, and high schools have a staggered start time.  My son has to be at school by 7:50 while my daughters start time is 8:45.  We live 1 mile from my son’s school and 3 miles from my daughters’ school so our wake up times are all different.  In the month leading up to this I started making some changes in how I used and viewed social media and moving from reacting to reflecting.  I knew I did not want to spend the time in the car line mindlessly scrolling a news feed.  I also need that I would have 15 minutes here and there in the morning that I didn’t want to waste.  Here are some things I’m trying this year and I hope they will help you in redeeming your time in the school car line.

  1.  From 6-6:40 am I am waking up and doing my devotions and praying.  Right now I’m using the book The Rhythm of Prayer: a forty day experience by Mark Moore as a prayer guide and Walking with Wesley: A Ninety-Day Devotional by Nick Harrison.
  2. 6:40 am is wake up time for my son, Drake, and I will spend 10-15 minutes managing emails after waking him up.  This is mainly deleting and unsubscribing from email lists.  I’m not really mentally processing things at this time.  I’m just trying to reduce digital clutter.
  3. After I double-check to make sure Drake is up and getting ready I will have 10-15 more minutes before we leave.  This offers a chance to give a quick glance to some news sites and ESPN.com or even do some Fantasy Football team management.
  4. After taking Drake to school at 7:20 I will have 1 or maybe 2 more 15 minute time slots while getting the girls ready for school and then I’m home from taking them at 8:20 and the day is off and running.
  5. For the afternoons I have decided to not go so early to pick up Drake.  This will cut my line wait time from 35 minutes to hopefully 10 or less.  I’ve placed a devotional book in the console of the van so that I’m not tempted to let that time slip by.  Whose mind doesn’t need a refresher and reminder at that point in the day?
  6. If the wait is longer I can catch up with folks on the phone, do a calendar review, or make a Facebook live video.  I did several last year called the Car Line Diaries just as a way to encourage folks and share things that have been going on with my family.  I can also use this time to rehearse my sermon.

The point of this is not for you to copy what I am doing.  Your family and routine are totally different from mine.  What I hope we can all start doing is making the most of these little bits of time that we’ve started sacrificing at the altar of the mindless phone scroll.  What are the tasks we can do that “clear the deck” and make our days easier later on?  What are the quick decisions and actions we can take to relieve our minds from unneeded stress?  How can we use these times to renew our minds and allow God to speak into our hearts and lives?  I’d love to hear from you about what you’re doing for Redeeming Your Time in the School Car Line.  Let me know on Facebook or Twitter or by leaving a comment below.

Moving from Reacting to Reflecting

Social Media's effect on our thinking

Think about this.  All recorded history and facts are at our fingertips.  No longer do we have to wonder “what year did that happen”, “what’s the RBI record for 2nd basemen in odd number years”, or “what movie was that guy in?”  With a few clicks, the answer can be ours.  The same goes with social media.  No longer do people have to wait to know how we feel about something.  We can either post our thoughts or react(like, heart, smiley face, shocked face, etc.) to the thoughts of others in an instant.  How many times have you been reading or thinking and something great pops in your mind or you see the perfect quote?  What is one to do?  Share it immediately of course!  In July, our family went to the beach.  I needed it.  I was burned out on a molecular and spiritual level(did I mention that studies have shown a link between depression and cell phone use).  I was excited to begin the habit of daily morning devotions and journaling(on the beach no less) and to delete Facebook and Twitter off of my phone.  An amazing thing happened.  The first day of devotions I came across a great quote from John Wesley’s writing and instinctively thought, “I’ve got to share this right now!”  The only problem was I had intentionally left my phone in the car plus…no Facebook or Twitter.  When the urge to post subsided my mind returned to the quote and I reflected on it more deeply than I’ve reflected on anything in a long time.  One thought led to another and soon I found myself lost in the moment, scribbling down my thoughts, and taken away by the Holy Spirit to a place I had not been in a long time.  It was a euphoric feeling.  I continued my morning reading and praying and at the end I just sat and took it all in.  It hit me.  How many times has God given me(or you) a great thought and once we have shared it on social media that’s it.  We feel our work is done and the moment passes and that thought soon fades away except on the Wall of Facebook or the Timeline of Twitter.  I have tried to calculate how many hours(days, months!) that I have wasted on the scroll.  You know what I mean: the mindless social media scroll of thumbing down the page until something catches our eye and we either click our reaction or click on the article.  I have permanent tendonitis in my thumb.  I have encouraged my son to look into being a carpal tunnel surgeon.  Between video games, keyboards, and phones he would always have a line of patients.  What if, instead of going right to our phones to find the answers, we took the time to think about it?  Of course, I’m not talking about if you need life saving medical advice or something like that.  What conversations and thoughts would be borne out of letting our minds search for…anything?  To fire back up those connections that have grown dormant?  What if, in the light of recent racial events in Charlottesville and other cities, I sought the Lord and let my mind consider all of these things instead of scrolling through to see what everyone else thought and reacting to it?  I’m not saying that there’s not a time and place to scroll through your social media feed, but we have gotten to the point where it’s our go to solution for any dead time in our day.

Now, I will add Twitter and Facebook to my phone when attending an event that I want to “report” on which is usually a church conference or a wrestling match.  Insert your joke here.  Most of the time though, I’m only getting on from my computer or iPad and only at the times I’ve set aside to do such.

I kept Instagram on my phone.  I have never struggled with it personally as far as getting lost in the scroll.  It allows me to post to Facebook and Twitter and now I will mark the quotes and scriptures I find in the morning for posting later.  I have also traded the screen for a book every night 30 minutes before I go to bed.  There’s been an amazing difference in my quality of sleep and sharpness of my dreams.  Here are some books that have really impacted me over the past month or so…and yes, I am reading more than I ever have before.

Deep Work: Rules for Focused Success in a Distracted World

Mind Hacking: How to Change Your Mind for Good in 21 Days

Switch On Your Brain: The Key to Peak Happiness, Thinking, and Health

The Emotionally Healthy Leader: How Transforming Your Inner Life Will Deeply Transform Your Church, Team, and the World

The Caped Crusade: Batman and the Rise of Nerd Culture(Hey, I didn’t say these were all serious books.)

The Quest for Holiness-From Shallow Belief to Mature Believer

Here are 3 suggestions I would make to move from reacting to reflecting

  1.  Take social media off of your phone if you can’t resist the urge to immediately post every good thought you have.
  2. Give yourself time(I prefer the mornings) to read, reflect and pray.  Get up early enough so time is not an issue and you don’t feel rushed.  Start writing down what you’re reading and the thoughts that come to your mind.  Feel free to share these later, but don’t lose the power of the moment to go deeper.
  3. Schedule scroll time.  Set aside 15 minutes(not right after you wake up, right before you go to bed, or during family time) to see what’s happening and when time’s up that’s it.

I hope to continue the daily of deeper reflection and thinking.  God continues to bring my mind back from a dark place of depression every single day.  The depression has always kept me from my best work including writing which I hope to remedy shortly.  Thanks for reading.  What’s been your experience with social media and smart phones?  How are you combating the pull to the mindless scroll?

David Drury joins the Wesleyan Potluck to talk Second Chair Leadership

From wesleyan.org:

Rev. Dr. David Drury is the chief of staff for the international headquarters of The Wesleyan Church, serving to guide the vision, missional priorities, and execution of the strategic plan under the leadership of Rev. Dr. Wayne Schmidt, General Superintendent.

Holding degrees Indiana Wesleyan University, Gordon-Conwell Theological Seminary, and Kingswood University, he previously served as a local church pastor in five congregations in the Midwest as a church planter, solo pastor, or staff pastor in urban, suburban, and rural settings. He is the author of nearly a dozen books including Transforming Presence, Being Dad, SoulShift, Ageless Faith, and Duckville.

David and his wife, Kathy, have three young children: Maxim, Karina, and Lauren.

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The Little Space Episode 8

Welcome to episode 8 of the Little Space

Today we talk about new ministry developments in Papua New Guinea from this great article:  https://www.wesleyan.org/6120/i-need-her-beside-me
Cheri Floyd is a Global Partners missionary in Papua New Guinea.
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The Little Space Episode 7: Investing in Female Pastors in Mongolia

Welcome to Episode 7 of the Little Space

 

Today we are talking about an article from Global Partners about the move of God among female pastors in Mongolia.

http://www.globalpartnersonline.org/about/stories/equip-her-providing-theological-training-for-women

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Resolutions Update, How Americans feel about Women in Ministry, and Mighty Faith: The Wesleyan Potluck Episode 12



Welcome to episode 12 of the Wesleyan Potluck: here’s a rundown of what we’ll be covering today:

In the Lineup we’ll be talking about how we are doing on our resolutions?

The meal will feature a look at the recent study on Americans’ views on women in ministry

The Dessert Table will feature a great Charles Wesley quote,

and the cleanup is where we will tell you how to become a part of the Potluck community.

The Lineup-
What are some things you like to do to “get back on track?”

The Meal-
http://www.theblaze.com/news/2017/03/15/new-study-reveals-what-most-americans-believe-about-female-pastors-priests/?utm_content=buffer812e0&utm_medium=social&utm_source=twitter.com&utm_campaign=buffer

The Dessert Table:
“Faith, mighty faith, the promise sees, and looks to God alone; Laughs at impossibilities, and cries it shall be done.”
– Charles Wesley

The Cleanup
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The Little Space 6: Beyond Christian Tokenism

This is the LIttle Space Episode 6. Today we talk about the article “Beyond Christian Tokenism” by Dr. Joanne Solis-Walker.
Here is a link to the article.
https://www.wesleyan.org/5729/at-the-table-beyond-christian-tokenism
Here is Dr. Solis-Walker’s message from the 2015 Gathering.

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What is The Wesleyan Podcast Network?

If you follow me on Social Media then you’ve noticed some new projects and posts the last few weeks.  For the last few years, God had been laying my heart(and the hearts of others) the need for more Wesleyan podcasts.  How could we take the conversations happening at conferences and pastor’s meetings everywhere and bring them to the public.  How could we share and spread the hopes and dreams of a generation for their denomination by encouraging and resourcing the Church?  Now, there are lots of “Wesleyan” podcasts including those provided by Seedbed.  By the way, you may notice a familiar voice on some of the New Room Podcasts.  There are also some good ones like WesleyCast put out primarily by United Methodists.  What I was finding was a great big void in the Podcastsphere of Wesleyan podcasts from within our denomination.  There were lots of conversations, but no movement.  Around Thanksgiving 2016 the urge and drive to create something being almost unbearable and an impromptu conversation with my good friend Tim Kirkpatrick sealed the deal and the Wesleyan Podcast Network was born.  It started with the Wesleyan Potluck hosted by Tim and I where we talk about a variety of topics pertinent to the Wesleyan tribe.  Next came the Little Space with Deborah Rhodes.  These first 2 podcasts give you a small glimpse of the ultimate vision:  many voices with one mission.  Soon, Groundswell with Jeremy Summers will be relaunching and from there the Wesleyan Book Club and others are on the horizon.  I believe there are numerous prophetic and intelligent voices not being heard widely in the Church.  I believe there are lots of people who have the knack for podcasting who don’t even know it yet.  I believe God has called me to give a platform to those voices and perspectives and to tell the stories that need to be heard.  You can support the network financially through Patreon and by joining the Facebook Group and adding your voice to the conversation.  I’m excited about the future and grateful to be on the journey with you.

“Playing Snake, The Mission Movement, and John Wesley on Prayer”
by Tim Kirkpatrick and Heath Mullikin

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The Wesleyan Potluck
March 13, 2017



Welcome to episode 11 of the Wesleyan Potluck: here’s a rundown of what we’ll be covering today:

In the Lineup we’ll be talking about $50 phones and playing Snake

The meal will feature a discussion on the end game of the mission movement

The Dessert Table will feature a great John Wesley quote,

and the cleanup is where we will tell you how to become a part of the Potluck community.

The Lineup-
https://hypebeast.com/2017/2/nokia-3310-relaunch

http://www.theverge.com/2017/2/27/14749896/nokia-3310-snake-gameplay-preview-mwc-2017

The Meal-

http://www.amplifyingmission.com/2016/08/29/the-end-game-of-the-mission-movement/
Ben Ward, Director of Communications & Innovations Architect and Asia Area Director

We often say: “Our global plan for amplifying mission is based on the 5 Phases of the Missional Church.

“Phase 1 begins when a church sends missionaries into an unreached place. Missionaries learn the culture and establish relationships, both proclaiming and demonstrating the gospel. As churches form and mature, the roles of the missionary team and the sending church they represent continually change. We customize our field strategy to meet the developmental needs of the receiving church based on its current phase.
“Ultimately, the missional church reaches Phase 5—Multiplying Movements—achieving full partnership with the Global Church, increasingly amplifying mission.”
Together with the Nepali leaders, we dreamed of a day when a strong, self-supporting Nepali Church becomes a full partner with the Global Church, crossing cultural boundaries, amplifying mission in the least reached places of the earth.
Disciples making disciples. Churches planting churches. Networks of churches crossing cultural and national boundaries to start new networks of churches. Multiplying Movements—this is our end game.”

The Dessert Table:
“God does nothing but by prayer, and everything with it.” — John Wesley
― John Wesley

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“The Little Space Episode 5: The Barna Study on Female Pastors”
by Deborah Rhodes and Heath Mullikin

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The Little Space
March 8, 2017

This is Episode 5 of the Little Space.

In this episode we discuss the recent study done by the Barna group on female pastors. Here’s the link to the story: http://www.christianitytoday.com/women/2017/february/study-female-pastors-are-on-rise.html

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